Monday, 01 March 2021
Hope & Healing
Although many attachment problems aren’t immediately evident and some parents report that symptoms didn’t start until school age, the majority of the A4everFamily moms noticed something was amiss during the first couple years after the child came home. At that point the huge and somewhat intimidating question became “What do we do now?”

"Many say that the ‘act of adopting,’ or the neglect/abuse that was sustained, is what is traumatizing to a baby or child. This seems reasonable since we have come to understand ‘trauma’ as an event. However, if we do this we may render ourselves helpless in repairing the trauma. But, if we see the trauma as a ‘trauma of relationship’ we are left with hope; the hope that we can repair the pain & suffering a child experienced. Then, when we ask a child to enter into a new (adoptive) relationship and the child resists, it is then understandable because what is being asked, of this trauma victim, is to enter into something that creates fear! If seen in this way we know what it is that we have to do… corrective experiences!" Doris A. Landry, M.S., L.L.P.

Corrective Experiences

We believe that when attachment issues are caught and treated early, children have a very good chance of overcoming the results of early trauma.

People have asked us what we felt were the most important steps in healing. First, we don’t believe there is an easy answer or a “magic pill.” Many of our children’s hearts have healed, but it has taken time, immense energy, and a combination of many “corrective experiences.” Here some we have found effective:

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